Sunday, February 19, 2012

Lessons of Friendship

Daughter #2 is a freshman in college. She called me tonight and was so sad. She learned a lesson that unfortunately so many of us have learned. She learned that some friends that she thought were friends were not true friends at all. We had many talks about meeting new people when you are out in the world away from family and familiarity. I think she really didn't realize until this weekend that everyone you meet in life is not looking out for your best interests. I think she thought everybody was going to be kind hearted and well meaning. I think we can teach our kids that everyone in the world is not going to be your friend, but until they are out there on their own two feet they don't grasp the concept. I don't understand why as women we are not better to each other. Why we don't cherish our female friendships. So often we are our own worst enemies. There is jealousy, "one ups-manship", back biting and for what. Those things don't help you win the boy, the promotion, the house - whatever it is that you think someone else is in the way of. Shame on us. I told my daughter that for every mean girl, she will meet a wonderful girl. Just don't be jaded, stay open to making new friends. I know that is what I have done for the last 50 years. I guess the mystery of the "mean girl" is never ending! What a shame!

1 comment:

  1. My daughter is a senior in college, she is going through a similar thing. Girls are just so nasty these days, I remember when we would have an argument and all go out on the veranda with a sweet tea and make up while looking out at the rolling hills. Oh well, girls these days...too obsessed with those Kardashians, don`t get me wrong, they are all beautiful and have great hair, but I just wish they would teach girls to be nice!